A few short tales to tell...

To Stay or Just Go

My brother had admitted to secretly go for interview for an overseas job in New Zealand. I gave my blessings, so did the rest of the family.

Two days ago, he got a parcel from New Zealand. I gave him a call.

me: abang! you got mail from new zealand.
abg: eh. they really send it?
me: hmmm...
abg: so adik. kau nak join abg gi sana tak?
me: boleh jugak. tapi mana nak taruk fadli? dalam bag?
abg: hehehe....

Since he didn't have time to fetch it from my mom's home, he instructed my dad to open and read it on his behalf. Dad was supposed to call him after that.

But they didn't call him due to shockness. My brother has been given the golden opportunity to work in New Zealand. He is supposed to leave hometown on 1st July, The day I'd be operated. His pay will be in USD and much much bigger than his annual here.

Mom called me the next day.

Mak: mak da bilang abang kau, jangan pergi.
me: asal pulak?
Mak: Dia nak tinggalkan mak! New Zealand tu jauh. Apa-apa jadi, sapa nak jaga dia? lagipun hari dia nak berangkat, hari kau kena operate.
me: alah... pandai pandai dia lah hidup pat sana. Cam tak biasa.
Mak: mak nak bilang kat kak shida suruh abang kerja je kat sini.
me: salah tu mak. ini peluang dia. asal kak shida taknak ikut dia ke?
Mak: ye lar, mak tahu. mak takleh lah anak jantan mak tinggalkan mak. si shida tu lak nak start belajar lagi.
me: aik. pelik lah. mana lagi penting, ikut suami overseas ke stay put and study.
Mak: adik bilang abang jangan pergi ok.
me: no can do. tu abang nyer choice.
Mak: kalau adik dapat peluang cam gini?
me: adik pergi. mak tahukan. adik akan pergi punya.
Mak: ye lar. kau tahu nak cabut jek.
me: hahahaha.

So I've yet to talk to my brother regarding this topic. I haven't even tell my hubby about it. Seriously, if my brother wants to go, he should go even if his wife doesn't want to tag along. That's her problem lah. But just for the sake of my mom, I'll insert in a few 'please stay!'.

Family issues

I read my hubby's sister blog. She responded about my topic on Men/housework.

I should have inserted on the family background, the family brought up the boys and girls.

I was brought up, watching my dad helping my mom with the housework. I also watched my mom teaching my brother to do the housework. I don't see why men shouldn't do it. Yes I was lazy before marriage, thinking... 'aiyah mak ader per, mak bley buat'.

But once you live in your own home, with a partner in crime (whom you never live with before), things started to change.

So it is not a pleasant view to come upon when wife does everything. What does she gets in the end? Satisfaction, of course, coz she does everything. But sometimes, when you can't cope, its better to ask for help and not just keep quiet and silently doing it. Ever ask how she feels when she's doing it?

Another thing, doesn't mean being a full time housewife, staying at home the whole day isn't tiring.

And another thing about babies. Why can't the men help to bathe and feed them? It is a good way for the father and child to bond. Read that up in magazines or baby books.