Women Dilemma

So the sister in law had her big engagement yesterday.
What with the custom-made blue songket kurung, the blue hantarans, and the gold decor eating area downstairs with delicious buffet.

It was chaotic for the family members. Not really for me. Hubby could not stand it as he did not have a peaceful time to himself. Guests and his mom kept calling for him.

Somehow something happened.

What happened?

Sister in law invited hubby's first ex-girlfriend over to help out with her accessories. Reason: she is a mak andam.

How it happened?

I was doing my own make-up when my MIL pulled me out to tell me the ex has arrived. I was shocked and of course my face expression changed. I moved backward unwillingly to acknowledge her coming over. But I was told that was the past and I should forget it.

So we shook hand and exchanged first look. She brought along her son.

Your opinion

My opinion of her being invited was fine, provided someone bothered to tell me beforehand. And her being swarmed by the aunties and cousins asking her this and that was still tolerable.

I was even pulled in to take picture with her, my MIL and SIL, which to me was pretty weird.

Then what changed it?

The sentence I heard the aunties said after she left bothered me greatly.

How?

She was leaving and I wanted to see her off when I stopped mid-way. But I was caught of guard by the reaction of the aunties and cousins. They might not have seen me standing behind them, nor they might have knew I was there all along.

They went on saying in sad tone in Malay, "Sayang, dia takde jodoh dgn Fadli, eh... " and the rests agreed.

Your Reaction

I was shocked. From the feeling of nothing, I became upset. Then I felt hurt and disrespected. I felt I was not their fave or part of their group. I felt like an outsider.

Hello! I am carrying Fadli's child in me.

Initial plan was the feeling of wanting to go back home. Then again, hubby would not like it.

He knew her attendance bothered me somehow.

But I had to throw that feeling aside and continued smiling throughout the event.

Until ...

The end day. We were all tired. No one mentioned her name anymore. But I was still upset over the sentence they said out loud. Worst, I felt like crying each time I remembered it.

Hubby words

Throughout the day, I kept on being with my hubby. Winking at him, smiling, laughing, hugging and holding his hands. My baby, on the hand, was very quiet and only kicked me when I was alone.

So I told him I wanted to eat LJS.

There, he calmly settled out the missing bits. He knew I was upset. He knew something bothered me.

I told him the sentence. He told me not to bother because at the end of the day, he is with me not her. He chose me not her.

I told him, being a woman, pregnant and a wife, I could not help it.

And all I could do at that time while eating the LJS was to control my tears from falling on my cheeks.

Summary

Back home, I slept like nobody business. I was exhausted from the whole event and the bother feeling issue. Hubby was great. He hugged me and kissed me. He gave me reassurance and that was what I needed most.

And after all, I know we love each other too much.